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GIVE COMPLIMENTS © Bernie Siegel MD
If you want to lift people off the ground - compliment them. Compliments are the helium that fills everyone’s balloon; they elevate the person receiving them so he or she can fly over life’s troubles and land safely on the other side, to be received with open arms.
When you motivate others with words of kindness, you will receive a surge of creative energy, too. I am not talking about giving false compliments to make someone feel better; I am talking about giving people the en-couragement to face a challenge rather than submit to their fears. If someone you love is singing or performing in any way, your kind words can inspire the person to share his or her talents with the world. Sometimes it is the small things in life that truly help us to feel empowered. For this exercise, dedicate at least one week to giving out three genuine compliments a day, and watch how this changes the level of enthusiasm you feel toward yourself and others.
I carry pins with me that say “You Make a Difference” and give them to people I see acting in a way that is life-enhancing. Recently at the grocery store, I gave an employee a card I received as a valued customer. The card said she was special, and her smile rewarded me. Also, remember to say thank you when compliments are sent your way. When we circulate our thanks and our compliments, the world becomes a better place.
KEEP FRIENDSHIP ALIVE © John W Travis MD, MPH
People need people. And often they don’t realize how great their need is until some moment of great joy or deep sorrow. At some point in your life you’ve probably experienced this yourself—wanting to share some great news with a friend or, perhaps during hard times, needing care and support from others.
It's alarming to realize that if people don’t get life-affirming strokes, they will seek them out in death- promoting ways rather than suffer the condition of being a nonentity. Many people use illnesses of body, mind, and spirit, both consciously and unconsciously, to get attention, touching, stimulation, and something to do.Less obvious is the need for strong, positive day-to-day relationships. Just as children need to be physically touched, stroked, and held in order to develop normally, all people need emotional stroking for a healthy, well-balanced life. A "stroke" is any form of stimulation or recognition that arouses feelings. Strokes may be positive,such as smiles, hugs, and loving words, or negative, like brush-offs, cold stares, slaps, or reprimands. Whether they are positive or negative, "strokes" confirm that you exist and that you matter, and this validation is essential to human survival.
One of the healthiest things you can do for yourself is to cultivate vibrant friendships—the kind that will supply you with the genuine support everyone needs, friendships in which you can dare to reveal your feelings, act spontaneously, care, touch, and serve. Stimulating and supportive relationships with other human beings are tremendous blessings—to the body, the mind, and the spirit.
A twenty-year survey of adults in the U.S. reported that, regardless of health problems, people who participated in formal social networks of some type outlived those who did not. An affiliation with a social network was found to be the strongest predictor of longevity, even above age, sex, or health. "When people are counting on you, you have a reason to get up in the morning," one researcher said.
The following suggestions are from long-term friends and married partners for simple things you can do to nourish the relationships that are important to you and to guarantee a loving environment for yourself. Respect the other. Do this even when you disagree over issues. Approach your partner or a friend with the same deference that you would pay to some hero or heroine—a great person you admire. Be kind, be kind, be kind! Honor the differences between you, and avoid trying to control the other, even subtly, to suitKeeping a Relationship Vibrant
Rich human relationships aren’t sustained by accident. A good marriage lasts because it is renewed day after day after day. Healthy relationships of all kinds will last and deepen if, like other growing things, they are watered and fed, and even pruned on a regular basis. Making the sustenance and maintenance of friendships a part of everyday life is an invaluable enhancement of your wellness.
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Give Compliments - Comments
1. Compliments help a person - both the one who gives the compliment and the one who receives it - elevate themselves. How do you know whether a compliment is genuine? Is it body language? Tone of voice? 70% of our communication is nonverbal. What are some situations/examples in which it is vitally necessary do distinguish genuine compliments from false compliments?
2. What does the research say about giving and receiving genuine compliments? Just how important is it for wellbeing?
Keep Friendship Alive - Comments
1. Healthy long-term relationships in which humans are made to feel needed are essential for wellbeing. Are there some cultural differences in long-term friendships or in marriage that influence these, or is this a universal human condition? Why or why not?
2. How can you find people with whom you strike a metaphorical chord, or transmit on the same metaphorical frequency? How do you know if you will be able to develop a mature, healthy, long-lasting, mutually rewarding relationship with someone? Is this even possible to predict?