Identify some of the key issues that cause sibling conflict to occur in contempo
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Question
Identify some of the key issues that cause sibling conflict to occur in contemporary families.
discuss what do think are the most effective strategies are for managing sibling conflict? Defend your position...
Parents often have different ideas and approaches for addressing conflict in the family (as evidenced by Phil and Claire in the video clip "Good Cop Bad Cop"). What advice would you offer to parents who don't agree on the best approach to managing conflicts among children?
Have you (or someone you have known) ever encountered a situation like the one experienced in the "Modern Family" clip? If so, how was it resolved? (not Psychology but the closest subject)
Explanation / Answer
Sibling conflicta are common problem which the parents face in day to day life, Parents also often go for counselling to get help from the experts to solve these issues efficiently and often take their children to the same.
Children when living together often fight for various things/due to various things ;-
constant bickering, teasing, competing, provocations and etc
Parents cannot undertand that why just their children can not get along, and be friends. They just think of these issues as an extra stress.
THE ANSWER IS ;-
That is how siblings get along, these fights test their tolerance, power and emotions, also these fights make the family more lively when things are going dull. When they're bored they fight as fights have recreational value too. or when they are at their relatives place doing nothing they fight over things, this is how siblings share their relationships be it be bad for a certaing period of time or good this keep on going.
These fights/rivalry/conflicts help them to know how to share things, how to be more tolerant of things and handling adverse situations efficiently.
THERE ARE VARIOUS CAUSES OF RIVALRY, SOME ARE ;-
1. UNEQUAL AMOUNT OF ATTENTION - One child getting attention and one not getting it can make the other a bit of insecure and frustrated which causes rivalry between children.
2. LACK OF PROPER RULES/ROUTINES - When there are no specific boundaries for children, they try and set the boundaries on their own as they dont know what they have to do or to what extent they can do a particular thing this cases anxiety and frustration.
3. TENSED PARENTS - When the tension comes from above, when parents are tensed due to which they are not able to give the children quality time in such homes they siblings tend to fight and argue more.
4. WHEN THERE IS NO HIERARCHY AMONG CHILDREN - When there are children of various age groups in the home and everyone gets the same amount or privildge about everything the chances of rivalry are more. The children should know their privildges of being younger or being the eldest and thier responsibilty. In absence of these the children start competing at the same level.
5. INEFFICIENT PROBLEM SOLVING - When one child feels that his voice is not being heard then he either tries to take the matter in his own hands or gives up and gets depressed.
STRATEGIES
1. Parents should make them aware of thier positive things they have in them rather than pin pointing the only negative ones, children often after hearing positive things try to change and act accordingly only.
2. These issues can also be resolved when parents start giving them time, when the child gets aware that his voice is being heard he would not fight for his right. Parents once start giving 10 minutes daily can solve the problem.
3. Also, telling their children to tolerate to share things and handling every issue with a right manner
4. Putting them in the same situation would also help, for ex- if you have to play you will play by turns or else you will not at all play and will go to study.
5. Having face the children consequence ;- Children also do not do a certain things if they'll have to face certain consequences for their act.
6. Other strategies can be ;- No favourites/ no comparison
GOOD COP BAD COP APPROACH
In this mehod the parents try to settle the dispute by one being aggresive and the other one being polite, thia approach can help as the bad uses threats and aggresive nature the good one sympathise.
Hence in this the children would get 2 options either to trust the good cop and agree with him/her because she is sympathising or by threats agree to the bad one.
ADVICE TO PARENTS WHO DO NOT AGREE ON THE BEST APPROACH TO MANAGING CONFLICTS AMONG CHILDREN
The parents know their children better than any counceller or expert, that how their children would react to certain things or what approach should be given to them
my advice would be that, parents should try and use various approaches to settle the dispute amonsgt the children and see which one works the best. Parents should give more time indivually to their children to know them properly, to know what would apply on them perfectly. hence giving time to children is must for only then the parents would be able to get the best approach be it being a good cop or the bad once what ever suits their children the best.